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Overcoming a relationship breakup: 10 keys to avoid the depression and negative thoughts
Falling in love is one of the most beautiful things that can happen to us. Maintaining a relation needs patience and in general breaking up demolishes the whole being, when the same is a matter of a truly emotional and spiritual love. What began with the target to be together forever and now it is in a crossroads or a separation can be very difficult to overcome.
The circumstances of life and the fate often tend to interfere in the affectionate relations. To survive all alone without couple is undoubtedly very hard after having had a nice relation. It turns out to be a very hard task to many persons.
Mornings are very awesome because they are the beginning of a long new day for the heart and some persons do not know how to spend the day alone again. Some of them are caught by depressive states. Others lose the appetite, want neither to go out, nor speak with friends or relatives. They remain in bed remembering the love they lost and tied up to the memories.
Day by day these feelings turn the person more and more defenseless and vulnerable. Some of them feel that life has no sense anymore. The loss of a love can feel as a very deep pain and cause great distresses.
Even to have suicidal thoughts is quite common between those who have been pushed back or have broken a relation. Basically it depends on how much they value a relation. If one person walks away because he/shee sees someone else, then the other part of the couple feels that quite unpleasant feeling of being left for someone better, more beautiful and intelligent. The reasons of a rupture can be great, but the heart does not understand these things.
THE 10 KEYS TO AVOID THE DEPRESSION AND NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AFTER A BREAKUP
1. Comment to someone on your feelings. Avoid to bottle your emotions, let them flow.
2. Do not beg him or her to return. If he or she has decided to go away, do not try to make them return.
3. Avoid the self-compassion.
4. Throw away all the photos or things that remind you the moments lived together.
5. If there is a ring in the relation, return it.
6. Read articles and news on the actuality. You are going to understand how many persons are suffering in this world. Your anxiety will seem smaller when you compare it with that of the victims of famine, floods or terrorist offenses.
7. Focus your mind in your career.
8. Get involved in your family matters and take care of those who need you.
9. Take part of a charity or organization to help others.
10. Do not hate the rest of the men or women, they are not all equal.
The pain that a breakup causes is not easy to overcome. But all the wounds are healed by the time. Do not stand still hoping that someone else extracts you out of the hole; it is you who have to get out by your own means. Learn to think and remain positive.
Born in Asuncion. Relationship counselor, post-divorce expert advisor.
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