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Putting the breakup into perspective
I personally believe that everything happens for a reason and that every moment contains a lesson to be learned. When we are in the situation where we’ve lost the love of our lives, it’s hard to believe that there is a life lesson to be learned in a painful breakup.
Looking back and remembering all the times that I have lost love, I remember feeling as though the world was coming to an end. But I also remember that no matter how bad it got, another day would come and eventually I would pull through to find another soul to love. Each relationship has it’s purpose in our lives in shaping who we are. When that purpose is fulfilled, the relationship must end. Think of it as relationship school where each relationship teaches you how to be in a relationship. With each new relationship, we learn more and more about how to love someone and be with someone.
When relationship breakup, often our first response is the get that relationship back. Sometimes, this instinct is not actually out of love, but out of comfort and fear. We fear that we will be alone and we were comfortable in our relationship even though it has ran it’s course.
I would suggest to you, that you accept the fact that you have lost your relationship. That relationship will never come back because it has ended. It is only after accepting this that we can truly decide whether it is a good idea to attempt a new relationship with that person.
I know you are thinking that “it’s easy for me to say”. But take some time and try to accept the situation. Stop dwelling on the pain and agony and trying to figure out what went wrong. At this point, does it really help you to torture yourself over questions that could never be truly answered by anyone?
At some point, the light will go on, and you have accepted the situation as it is. It is in this moment that we know whether a new relationship can begin with this person. If this is the person you are meant to be with, you will feel that it is right to begin planning how you are going to win back your love.
So take some time for yourself. Stop trying to make contact with him/her, they need the space just as much as you need it to clear your head. The space may also work in your advantage when they start to miss you.
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Richard runs the blog How to get back together where you can find lots of helpful hints and stories aimed at helping people get over their breakup and advice on how to go about getting back together with their ex’s. Article Source:http://www.articlesbase.com/breakup-articles/putting-the-breakup-into-perspective-989235.html

