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How I Got Back With My Hot Ex Girlfriend!

I don’t want to bore you with the story of Veronica and I; all you need to know is that we were college students, with the same interests and dorms that were close enough to walk in 5 minutes. We dated for 3 years, and frequently joked about the plans for the future. That is, until she dumped me over an argument that, apparently, was the last tip of the iceberg for her.

We didn’t fight often. As a matter of fact, I thought I was the sweetest boyfriend a girl could ever have. We were always happy together – yes, we got on each other’s nerves every once in a while, but what couple doesn’t? However, I had certain down sides that really pissed Veronica off. She couldn’t deal with my insincerity and lateness, for example. I had a hectic schedule that I could barely manage, and she had little patience for my antics. I felt no appreciation for the hard effort I would put at work, AFTER spending 12 hours in and out of classes and libraries. What hurt me the most is that I was working to save up for an engagement ring when we broke up, but that’s a whole another story…

I thought I would never get Veronica back. In my eyes, I was a heartless prick who couldn’t make it right for his girl. Boy, was I wrong.

Not only did Veronica beg for me to take her back, but we actually have a better relationship now than we did before! The whole experience made me realize that a breakup doesn’t have to be the END of a relationship – sometimes, it’s just another bump in the road of love. And sometimes, just to overcome it, you might need a little help. But I was able to save the love of my life, and cherish it for years to come. How did I do it? Easy. My friend told me about this book he read, and the book hinted at these three tips:

1) Don’t be afraid to apologize. I’m not one to stereotype, but as a Business major trying to get a steady job in a bookkeeping company, I know my classmates pretty well. As all accountants, I can sometimes come off as a total prick. My problem gets even worse than that, because I A) don’t know when to shut my mouth in an argument, and B) don’t know how to apologize. “I’m sorry, I was wrong, how can I make it right” can go SUCH a long way!

2) I frequently texted Veronica about important decisions. This isn’t a stipulation, but a fact based on a recent survey conducted by people who work for Oprah. I never knew that in 87% of all cases, women feel like they’re more of a part in making a decision over a phone conversation! Who knew that a text message could ruin my future?

3) I did not realize that I never spoiled my girl until after I looked back in time and realized that the last time we made … (to be continued) http://getbackexgirlfriendnow.blogspot.com/

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What NOT To Do After A Breakup If You Want Your Girlfriend Back!

Many guys see breaking up with their girlfriends as an opportunity to go back on the “club scene” or wherever else they go to hunt for girls. For me, the thrill of the chase was never as exciting as having a girl to call my own. Veronica was my baby, and we were Lady & The Tramp perfect (without the tramp part – we both came from well-raised families). I don’t know where I went wrong with our relationship, but one thing was clear to me: Veronica found someone else, and I was no longer in her life.

As always, I went through the stages of coping. First, I was in denial: I couldn’t believe it had happened, and sleeping on an empty bed was extremely awkward! Second, I was angry: why would that stupid, immature ex-girlfriend of mine want to dump me? What makes this other guy SO much better than me? I was fit, well-dressed, made good money and drove a nice car … this new guy can’t possibly be as sweet as I was, too!
(Meanwhile, all my friends were telling me I would never get Veronica back, but I knew they were lying to me. Not only was getting back with her possible, but we actually made our relationship stronger when we got back together! But I digress.)

Third, I went through the bargaining stage: “Maybe if I stop calling her, she’ll question my whereabouts and become interested in what’s going on with me?” Of course, I couldn’t be more wrong, because I soon realized that unless I took action myself – and took it SOON – I would forever lose Veronica. Then came the fourth stage, which was depression. I lost appetite and my interest in sports disappeared. I enjoyed hanging out with my friends, but I soon found myself withdrawn, just staying up late at night and thinking about her; where she was at, at that very moment. I couldn’t get her smile, her smell, her voice, and her everything else out of my head. How could I go on without Veronica???

I wasn’t able to complete the 5th stage of my coping process: acceptance. I never accepted Veronica as someone that I was no longer with. Deep down, she will always be my number 1. And so, one night, I decided to change everything. I was not going to be running around with my nose down to my chin. I told myself: less moping, more doing.

My thoughts changed. All of a sudden, I knew I was going to get her back, and I knew exactly how.

I finally made my ex-girlfriend forget all about her new guy as she came crawling back to me – and righteously so …

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